Imagine your life is like your inbox. What would you choose to delete to make more room for what really matters to you?

How it all started!

I remember the day I left. He was out for the afternoon with his family, so I had my chance to pack up my last few things and leave before they came back — something I had quietly arranged with his mum. I remember closing the door behind me, getting into my car, and driving down the road to my new flat, phoning my parents on the way. It was that all-important, reassuring call — at the very moment I most needed to hear from them both.

And they both gave me exactly the advice and wisdom I needed at that rock-bottom moment. What I needed to hear was that I should be thankful it actually happened — because, as hard and difficult as it felt right then, at least I could come out of it stronger, start to live a new chapter that was right for me, and create a new, positive beginning. I am stronger and wiser now, and I can wipe the slate clean and start afresh.

My dad said that when you're thankful to the people who hurt you — and to any bullies — you're hypothetically saying thank you, so that you don't waste any more time with people who aren't meant for you, and you can move on.

My mum reminded me to have gratitude and count my blessings, and reminded me of all the wonderful things I still had going on in my life that I'd forgotten about.

So the messages both my parents gave me were an eye-opener and a breath of fresh air — exactly what I needed to hear in that moment of darkness.

My parents have always been so wise. Regardless of what I went through — even in the deepest, darkest times — they always seemed to know the exact right thing to say to me, mentally and emotionally. They have always been such wise teachers and role models to me, in every area of my life, and people I will always look up to.

Even when I've hit rock bottom a few times — I've experienced depression three times in the space of twenty years — they always managed to shine a light on me exactly when I needed it most, and they always knew just what to say. And sometimes, believe it or not, right when you least expect it, my dad would give me a little of his comical humour: "You're going to laugh about this in years to come, wondering what on earth you were thinking!" And my mum would say, "Come on, Abbie, get it together!" — which always made me laugh, because they were both so true.

Even when you're going through your lowest points in life, you can always count on a bit of humour to shed light on things and help you laugh about them. Laughter really is the free medicine we don't use nearly enough! I knew I wasn't thinking straight, and they both knew me so well that they got me right back on track.

I have so much gratitude for them, for supporting me through everything I've done and been through. Thank you, Mum and Dad — I can't thank you both enough. 💛

Moving on swiftly…

When I turned 40 in 2025 (though I'm writing this in 2026), that became my pivot — my turning point for a second clean slate. And my real calling!

The Turning Point & The Calling

When I turned 40, my mum took the opportunity to remind me that I needed to evaluate my life for what I was grateful and appreciative of already — because I kept hitting really low points where I nearly fell back into depression. She was able to remind me to be thankful and have gratitude towards everything I have already achieved, so I didn't forget them, to give me an emotional and mental boost which was much needed.

She is actually the lady in the black dress with the sparkler — because she always reminds me never to lose my own sparkle. 💛

Rebuilding my identity, rediscovering my spark and finding my purpose — to guide others through the very same journey.

It was my mum who reminded me to find out my true calling and to follow and discover my own Ikigai path. Which is why this page actually exists for you to read today! 💛

Rediscovering My Joy

After everything I went through at 21, and then all through my 20s and 30s heading towards 40 — everyone talks about "the big 40," but to me it was just another number, because of what I'd found myself going through all over again.

In the last five years especially, I finally understood something I hadn't recognised before: several of the relationships I'd been in during my 30s were with narcissistic people. At the time I had no idea that's what the behaviour was, and I couldn't understand why I was being treated the way I was. I felt confused, lost, stressed, drained, not myself at all, doubting everything and constantly in arguments — and I just couldn't work out why.

Then one day I came across Seed Talks in Brighton, and I began to learn and truly understand what narcissistic behaviour, personalities and traits really were. Suddenly everything I'd been through started to make sense — I wasn't going crazy after all. It uncovered and answered so many of the questions I'd been carrying.

I started sharing what I'd learned with my mum, who hadn't heard of it either, and with other members of my family — and they were all just as surprised. It simply wasn't widely known back then. It was a massive learning curve, and I'm so grateful I came to understand it all through my 30s and 40s.

Then, to give me a break and help me start finding my joy again, my parents surprised me with an unforgettable rally-car track drifting experience — to bring back joy, happiness and laughter! I couldn't thank them enough. My dad always seems to know exactly what will make me jump for joy!

And that feeling — freedom, joy, fully alive again — is exactly what I want to guide you back to.